Dear Dr. Romance:
How are you ? I read your article "Is Dating Scary? Here’s what to do"
I have a question. I am separated since three years and seems like will get divorce in 3 to 4 months. I have a 3 year old kid and my delivery involved 4th degree tear with perineal tear.
My face and figure is still beautiful but Now I have stretch marks on hips breast and I have this low-esteem as I have bit of urine leakage now and then as an after affect of 4th degree tear . Also my vagina looks weird and feels loose.
I do not feel confident about new relationship . I feel insecure and feel like no one will love me. I do not feel like having sex.
In short I am deliberately not looking for new relationship as do not want to get hurt. Any suggestions?
Dear Reader:
You are not a kid any more, so you need to look for a more grown-up relationship. You need someone who will be a good match for a grown woman with a child. Start by making adult friends. Join groups of parents with children, or join a community organization. There you'll make friends who care about you, not because you're beautiful, but because you're a caring human being. Before long, someone will stand out as special, and also think you are special. You will already know something about this person, from being around him for a while at the group, so it will be easier to establish a connection. "10 Reasons For Not Falling in Love" "Where is love", "Make New Friends, Keep Good Friends" and "True Beauty: Honor the God or Goddess in You" will help you overcome your reluctance to get to know new people and find the love you want. The Ten Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make After Forty will show you how to re-evaluate your self-image and your life.
Your vaginal problems may be correctible with medical help. Please ask your doctor.
For low-cost phone counseling, email me at [email protected]
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