Dear Dr. Romance:
I have been reading a lot of your articles. and I need to know what would be the best book for me to get until my partner and I can get into counseling. I am gay and we argue all the time,we don't communicate the best and then we fight argue scream say things we don't mean then we don't talk and then want it to be over we have tried this time and time again. I am looking into counseling thru my insurance but thought maybe there was a book to read til then.
Dear Reader:
I'm sorry to hear that you and your partner are arguing. When you argue, you can't fix the problem. What you need to do is stop talking about who's right and who's wrong, and begin focusing on what will work. It is very possible to learn the appropriate and necessary relationship skills to make your relationship work. You and your partner could benefit from Gay Relationships for Men and Women: How to Find Them, How to Improve Them, How to Make Them Last and How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free as well as the articles "Fair Fight Guidelines" and "Guidelines for Finding and Using Therapy Wisely"
